The Four Agreements: Part 2: Don't Take Anything Personally

Whatever happens around you never take it personally. If you take anything personally you are agreeing with what the person has said to you. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you and you are trapped in the dream of hell. What causes you to be trapped in is called personal importance.

Personal importance, or taking things personally is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about "me". We think we are responsible for everything. Everything is about "me, me ME."

Nothing other people do is ever because of you. It is because of themselves. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even if a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they have received during their domestication.

Taking things personally makes you easy prey for these predators, the black magicians. They can hook you easily with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want, and because you take it personally, you eat it up. You eat all of their garbage, and now it becomes your garbage. But, if you do not take it personally, you are immune in the middle of hell. Immunity in the middle of hell is the gift of this agreement.

Even if a person is telling you things that are complimentary, this is still just their opinion. If you truly know who you are, you don't have the need to be accepted.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If this person does not walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away will hurt for a while, but, your heart will eventually heal. Then, you can choose what you truly want. You will find that you don't have to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.