When you deny responsibility in every relationship disagreement, all you’re really doing is blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect, “The problem is never me, it’s always you.” This denial of responsibility just escalates the argument, because there’s a complete breakdown of communication.
So take responsibility for your actions. Take responsibility for your relationship – the good times and the bad. Work with your partner. Communicate. Blaming them is a copout that accomplishes nothing. Either you both take equal ownership of the problems you two encounter together, or the problems will own both of you.
You will not find Truth in your past data, only past data that is based on other past data that is based on other past data, and so forth. Forget your "past experience" and look directly at the experience you are having Right Here, Right Now. There is your Truth.
Dr. Crewson Andrew Martin, Ph.D, LCSW-R, M-C.Ht., CMFT, SPN, CWPhas over 31 years of experience treating individuals, couples, and groups. His approach is the synergistic and cybernetic relationship between mind and body.
He is a licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Master Clinical Hypnotherapist, Gestalt Therapist, Licensed Master Fitness Trainer, Certified Sports Nutritionist, and is the Clinical Director of TheSuffolk Institute for Hypnotherapy.(http://www.sihonline.net/)
Additionally, Dr. Crew is a Certified Wellness Professional and a Certified NLP Practitioner. Therapy modalities he utilizes include Gestalt Therapy techniques, EFT(Energy Field Therapy), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Response), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Schema Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), Meditation Therapy, Somatic Psychotherapy techniques, Rational Emotive Therapy, and Light Therapy.
He has many years of hospital and home-based medical experience and knowledge. Dr. Crew has many years of experience treating patients on Hospice programs as well their families. His clinical experience is also in psychiatric based interventions. He is a certified School and Educational Social Worker.
He is an adjunct professor atDowling College, Oakdale, NY. He maintains a private practice in Port Jefferson Village(Tonglen Psychotherapy,P.C.and Subconscious Solutions, LLC), and is the owner of Mind-Body Fitness and Strength Studio,Inc. also in Port Jefferson Village. Dr. Crew is certified to provide fitness services to children, adolescents, adults, and seniors.
Dr. Crew offers supervision for Licensed psychotherapists seeking their "R" designation. He also provides supervision and instruction for Licensed Fitness Trainers who are working towards their Master Fitness Trainer certification.
His Institute, The Suffolk Institute for Hypnotherapyalso offers courses and training in Hypnosis and Clinical Hynotherapy,Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapy (Master Clinical Hypnotherapy certification), Neuro-Linguistic Programming ,Dialectical Behavioral Therapy,Assertiveness Training,Meditation Therapy, Schema Therapy,Somatic Psychotherapy,Parent Effectiveness Training,EFT,EMDR, and Rational Emotive Therapy for practicing therapists and Allied Health professionals. Each seminar training and all courses are open to the general public and all are always welcome to attend.
Dr. Crew is a certified Clinical Hypnotherapy trainer and instructor with The American Board of Clinical Hypnotherapy and offers certification with ABCH through courses and seminars taught at The Suffolk Institute for Hypnotherapy.
Dr. Crew is a member of Weight Management and Healthy Eating Resources of Long Island, (www.eatingforwellness.com) which is an independent group of healthcare professionals dedicated to weight management, healthy living, and a healthy lifestyle.
Dr. Crew hosts a twice monthly internet television show entitled "Mind-Body Psychotherapy, Fitness, and Wellness with Dr. Crewson Andrew Martin" which can be viewed live every other Sunday from 1pm-2pm EST on Ustream.com.