Simple Kindness: #5

TREAT ACQUAINTANCES THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED

We look for acquaintances for simple relationships and cordial encounters. Acquaintances touch our lives, though our contact is limited. They may be neighbors, coworkers, fellow commuters, employees in the stores where we shop, or parents of our children's friends. By unspoken agreement, we keep our associations light, talking simply for fun or to share information and pass the time. An acquaintanceship may not even seem significant, but having a network of acquaintances offers many rewards; the exchange of greetings when we're out, a conversation at the office, company at our children's activities, and the continuing sense that we're recognized and connected as we move through our day.


REMINDERS

* Extend yourself to others in appropriate settings at work, at school, in the neighborhood. Smile, say hello, see if your greeting is welcomed. If you're approached in the same way, respond quickly.

* Respect personal boundaries and expect the same in return. Don't ask prying questions, don't feel pressured to answer them.

* Only request the kinds of favors you'd be happy to return.

* Realize that acquaintances can't substitute for deeper bonds of close friendship. Don't seek strong support or reveal too much about your personal life. For long-term closeness, turn to those you know well.

* If you would like to know an acquaintance better, strengthen your relationship slowly and mutually. Share brief conversations over a cup of coffee, gradually spend more time together, call each other, meet for lunch.

SIMPLE KINDNESS= HOW TO BE KIND IN AN OFTEN RUDE WORLD