Simple Kindness: #16

ACCEPT GIFTS AS YOU HOPE OTHERS WILL

People who give us presents wish to make us happy, and we need to treasure the kind gesture, separate from the actual gift. The gift itself may be disappointing--the giver might not have known or considered our taste, 0r may have rushed and been concerned about cost. Or, the gift may be much more than we expected or wanted.

Either way, the present was meant to please us, and we need to assume that the generous intentions are real. We can show gratitude for the gift-giver's thoughtfulness and effort, and let them know they succeeded in making us feel valued and remembered. Our words of appreciation, our pleased attitude, and our thank you notes or messages are the small gifts we can offer to people who wish us well.


REMINDERS

* Have realistic expectations; don't pressure friends or relatives to buy you "great" presents; don't tell people not to give you gifts if you know they will.

* Offer gift suggestions if you're asked, even if you'd rather be surprised. Remember that those who are asking just want to please you.

* Don't take generosity for granted, even when you're sure that certain people--your partner, your parents--will always give you a gift for certain occasions. Show that you recognize and value their thoughtfulness.

* In any situation, offer a quick "thank you" for a present. If you like what you have been given, clearly show your pleasure. If you're disappointed, keep your feelings private and focus on the intention.

* Send a thank you note or call unless you're sure none is expected. It's better to do this rather than to risk hurting and angering someone who has been kind.

SIMPLE KINDNESS=HOW TO BE KIND IN AN OFTEN RUDE WORLD