Loop

When you find yourself in one of those incessant loop thought patterns of judgment about someone else’s behaviors, ask the hard question: Do I myself exhibit this same behavior or attitude that I judge in this person?
Almost always, the answer is "yes".
You probably already know that the stuff that irritates us the most about others tends to be attributes we don’t necessarily realize we ourselves have.

 Or, what irritates us about others may be the very same trait or action that we have been working on letting go of.

Dr. W. Crew Lauterbach/Ph.D., LCSW-R