Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Communication Rule Number Nine

Don't Label, Name-Call, Use Sarcasm, or Threaten to End the Relationship.
 You don't need a rule to know that these things are counterproductive and that later you'll be sorry you said or did them.

But that's later and now's now. And now the intensity of your feelings exceeds your ability to think things through. You feel so powerless that you are willing to resort to almost anything, even to statements that will make your partner even less likely to listen to you.
You're lucky if you are the kind of person who, when angry, automatically edits out anything that you'll be sorry later that you said. You're unlucky if you're the kind of person who, when angry, immediately goes to just those things.

Dan Wile

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