The Work

Stories

No amount of reassurance or recitation will change what has already happened.

You cannot find happiness by holding onto a painful story, trying to place it in new, brighter light.

You can only find happiness when you let it go and make room for something better.
You don’t need another person’s permission to let go and feel better.
You can stop telling your stories.

The HABIT of Weight Loss

Successful weight loss takes time and patience.

 After all, you’re learning to make healthier choices, avoid emotional chow-downs, and go for a walk instead of sinking into the couch. Lifelong habits can take months, or more, to turn around. Think of how long it can take to adjust to a new job or to learn to play the piano.

 Mistakes and setbacks are part of learning. Congratulate yourself every day for making the effort. Eventually these new habits will start to feel like your new normal. You’ll enjoy the lifestyle you’re living, and you may even look back and be shocked by your old habits. Just stick with it, and tell yourself that it’s okay to falter. Just pick right back up where you left off and learn from your mistakes.

Practice, as they say, makes perfect.

Life

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is really a gift to yourself .
Have the compassion to forgive others,
and the courage to forgive yourself.

Supporting Those Coming Out

If you know someone who is struggling to come out to friends, family and loved ones, help make the transition easier by offering your support.
Research shows that lesbians, gays and bisexuals who are still in the closet have higher levels of stress, anxiety, depression and burnout than those who are out to family and friends.
When someone comes out to you, it usually means that they want to have an open and honest relationship with you and they hope that you can accept them as they are. It is important to withhold judgment and remember that they are the same person they always were.
Also, since it’s their information to share, it’s important to ask whether this is something that should be kept in confidence.

Allowing

Force

Do not attempt to conquer the world with force,
for force only causes resistance.

 Lao Tzu

Bite-Size

Research shows that we can cut back on unintended calories by taking bitty-size bites.
Taking less food into our mouths at once can slow down the eating process so we have more time for digestion.
 The study found that people ate 30 percent less when their food was divided into pre-apportioned bites.

 Use smaller utensils, cut your food into smaller pieces and select just one nut or piece of popcorn at a time.

Fearless

Sight

Self-Talk

If someone was insulting you or abusing you, you’d probably walk away.
 But how often do we take this abuse from ourselves?
 Since you can’t walk away from yourself  you must learn to be kind to yourself and give up trying to live up to your image of perfection.

Listen to your self-talk.
Is it negative and critical?
Learn to speak to yourself in the way you would a close friend or to a young child.

Eat More FOOD

Deep Pain

Mindfulness

Without mindfulness, you won’t even notice when you’re being your own enemy.
Practicing awareness of your thoughts, beliefs, and patterns is the only path to change.

Soda Dangers

Time

"Why"

As Friedrich Nietzsche so profoundly said,

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” 

Sugar

Humility

Facing Fears

Get uncomfortable and face a fear every day.
With a strategy of continuous small steps into uncomfortable territory we are often able to sidestep the biggest barrier to positive change: Fear.
 Sometimes we’re afraid we’ll fail.
Sometimes we’re subconsciously afraid we’ll succeed and then we’d have to deal with all the disruption (growth) and change that follows success.
 Other times it’s our fear of rejection or simply our fear of looking like a fool.
The best way to defeat fear is to stare it down.
Connect to your fear, feel it in your body, realize it and steadily address it.
Greet it by name if you have to: “Welcome, fear.”
Fear can be a guiding friend if you learn how to swallow it, and listen to it only when it serves its true purpose of warning you when you are in danger.

Core

Whenever you need to make a choice, always take the path that is in harmony with your core values and beliefs.

Deeper

Ninety Percent

"Life is 10 percent what happens to me
and 90 percent how I react to it".

 Charles Swindoll

30 Day New Habits-Part 1

Let go of one relationship that constantly hurts you. 
 Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, enhance you, and make you happy.
If you know people who do none of these things, let them go and make room for new positive relationships.
Over the next 30 days, if relevant to your situation, gradually let go of one person in your life who has been continuously hurting you and holding you back.

Fried Food Dangers

New research suggests that eating deep-fried food regularly — as in once a week or more — is associated with a 30 to 37 percent increased risk of prostate cancer.

When oil is heated to the high temperatures required for frying, carcinogenic compounds form in both the oil and the food that’s being fried. The higher the heat and the longer it’s hot, the greater the number of toxic compounds formed.
 According to one study, deep-fried foods have previously been linked to cancers of the breast, lung, pancreas, head and neck, and esophagus.
Forgo the french fries and roast yourself some sweet potato fries instead.

Voice

Negative

Remove yourself from negative situations and  negative people.
You do get to choose the people you willingly spend your time with or what you spend your time doing.
 If you very often leave a place or people feeling drained, angry, dejected, or violated, then make a new choice.

Indeed

Conquering

Self-Worth

Realize that you do not have to justify your worth.
The truth is that everyone is worthy of love, respect, and kindness.

Colorful Eating

The Law Of Attraction Redefined

Solidarity

"The first step in the evolution of ethics
is a sense of solidarity with other human beings".

 Albert Schweitzer

Lesson

I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents,
you will miss them when they're gone from your life.

Mascots

Judging

Finding YOU

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.

 But if you focus on
 your family and friends,
the needs of others,
your work,
who you truly are and what you believe in 
and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.

WMD

Self-Transformation

Radical Acceptance

Radical Acceptance states that life works better when you accept people for who they are, without judgment.
 Once you have done that you can

then act accordingly.

Grapefruit

Replenishing

Leading

So often in life we attach all of our hopes and dreams to specific moments in time, getting caught up in the possibility of everything changing or moving forward thereafter.
Perhaps the key to contentment is knowing that the value of any moment isn’t always about where it leads.
 Maybe about how we perceive it, live it, appreciate it, and then move forward on the journey, still excited about the path ahead, wherever it may take us.

Clarity

Not Allowing

Not Knowing

To know yet to think that one does not know is best;
Not to know yet to think that one knows will lead to difficulty.

 Lao Tzu

Making Time

Many of us swear that we don’t have time for a daily sweat session, but research shows that the average household watches 4.5 hours of TV a day.
People over the age of 65 spend 25 percent of their time in front of the tube.
Weight-loss experts have found that getting their clients to count the hours that they spend watching TV or surfing the Internet makes them more likely to make time to exercise. Research in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that watching TV for an average of six hours a day could shorten a person’s life expectancy by nearly five years.

If you’re even close to that number, try to wean yourself from your least favorite shows, and take up an active hobby instead. If there is one show that you especially enjoy watching each night, find a way to incorporate exercise into the time you spend watching it.
For example, record a favorite show and watch it on a phone or iPad while at the gym. You might even tear an exercise routine from a magazine and do it during commercials. Or you could simply run in place, do jumping jacks or lift weights while you watch.

Medicine Or Poison?

Forgive

Beautiful

Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world,

choose the one who makes your world beautiful.