What Can Be Done?

The Problem

Overthinking is one of the most rampant sources of stress and mental clutter. 
 The key is to realize that the problem is often not the problem. 

 The problem is often the incredible amount of overthinking you’re doing with the problem.

Your Future Self

Responsibility

When you deny responsibility in every relationship disagreement, all you’re really doing is blaming your partner.  You’re saying, in effect, “The problem is never me, it’s always you.”  This denial of responsibility just escalates the argument, because there’s a complete breakdown of communication.

So take responsibility for your actions.  Take responsibility for your relationship – the good times and the bad.  Work with your partner.  Communicate.  Blaming them is a copout that accomplishes nothing.  Either you both take equal ownership of the problems you two encounter together, or the problems will own both of you.