Challenge Yourself

"You must do the things you think you cannot do."

Eleanor Roosevelt

Perceptions

What we believe determines our thoughts. What we think determines our perspective. Our perspective causes us to label people and events and to assign value to them. We use labels and values to define both ourselves and our focus. What we focus upon is what we empower. What we empower determines our view of reality. Our reality determines how we choose our actions.

It has been said that perception is more important than reality, and for most of us this is true. More importantly, what we believe is what develops our view of the world. We establish our position in relation to it and our role based on our beliefs. These also impact our relationships and our opinions. Often these beliefs are derived from what we have been taught, what others have observed and have told us, or whatever spin has been placed on words or actions.

The "Peak-End Rule"

Plotting the perfect getaway? To get the most pleasure out of your vacation, spend your money on experiences instead of an extra day.

When it comes to getting the most out of your vacation, how long you go away for matters less than how you fill your days. According to behavioral economist Tom Gilovich, PhD, of Cornell University, you will get the biggest bang for your buck by spending your money on an amazing experience rather than an extra day at your location.
It has to do with something called the "peak-end rule." When reflecting on how good a time we had, we’ll remember two things: the most intense moments and the last day. That’s why he recommends splurging on an unforgettable experience, like a helicopter ride, surfing lessons or dinner at your favorite celebrity chef’s restaurant. Then, be sure to do something special on the last day or evening before you head home.
The more fun you have on your vacation, the better you’ll feel when you return home. Taking time off from work or at-home responsibilities helps us recuperate, so we can return to our daily lives with less stress and renewed vigor.

HUNTING

HUMANS HUNT FOR LOVE.

WE HUNT FOR LOVE IN OTHER HUMANS JUST LIKE US, EXPECTING TO GET LOVE FROM THEM WHEN THESE HUMANS ARE IN THE SAME CONDITION THAT WE ARE IN.

THEY DON'T LOVE THEMSELVES EITHER, SO REALLY--HOW MUCH LOVE CAN WE GET FROM THEM?

Slowing Down The Process of Emotions

Human beings are not very good at allowing the experiencing of emotions in full without trying to speed up the process.
The only time we have this ability in its purest sense is when we are young children who have yet to be told or taught what is socially acceptable.
Children will tantrum and cry and scream, or laugh until it runs out and they are genuinely ready to move on.
Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without any agenda of speeding up the process. Whatever you are feeling is OK. Take some time to just sit with your emotion and experience it without moving to fix or change it.
Genuinely experiencing emotions, no matter how painful, is one of the beauties of life. Don’t shy away from these moments. Be present in them.

Say What?

Take off the headphones, or turn the volume down. One in four college students show some level of hearing loss.
Think you don’t need to turn down your headset because your hearing is perfect? A small study found that 25 percent of college kids had some degree of damage — even though they thought their hearing was fine. Seven percent of those tested in the study had enough damage to be diagnosed with mild hearing loss.
According to the researchers, you would expect people of that age to have normal hearing ability. Though they did not assess the reasons for students’ impaired hearing, researchers speculate it has to do with the prevalence of portable music players.
Hearing damage cannot be undone, so protect your ears now to prevent hearing loss and possibly even dementia later. Research published in the Archives of Neurology found that older adults with hearing loss are significantly more likely to develop dementia than people with good hearing.

ACCEPTANCE AND LOVE

YOU CANNOT CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE.

YOU LOVE THEM THE WAY THEY ARE OR YOU DON'T.

YOU ACCEPT THEM THE WAY THEY ARE OR YOU DON'T.

TO TRY TO CHANGE THEM TO FIT WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO BE IS LIKE TRYING TO CHANGE A DOG FOR A CAT, OR A CAT FOR A HORSE.

THAT IS A FACT.

THEY ARE WHAT THEY ARE.

YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE.

WE CAN ONLY CHANGE OURSELVES.